When I broke up with my ex because I found him with three other girls, I ended our relationship with a goodbye letter that I personally handed him with a content that said, "I AM LETTING YOU GO BECAUSE I LOVE YOU, AND I WANT YOU TO BE HAPPY." Is this pathetic or what?!?
But I meant it. It was one of the hardest things I had to do, but I did it for LOVE. And it felt good and dignifying. After over six months since our break-up, he asked to get back with me, but I relented because I was already in love with someone else.
What about you? What would you do for LOVE?
Copyright ©2006 Theren Alexander
28 comments:
hhmmm.... I loved my beter half more than I did myself. Guess wat, it came back to haunt me....
everithing to keep it!!
thats probably gives a more guilt-concious reason for him to contemplate!!
I wish you'll find a better man!!
i'm not thinking about love now.
It is not pathetic at all, you did a brave thing, that is, CONFRONTING THE REALITY THAT THE TWO OF YOU WILL NEVER BE TOGETHER. Whoever would that be your new love, I pray that God will make you happy.
Its not a sigh when u give out ur love to the other girl because it only showed how u value ur love with him. Well its easy to say something like that but in reality only few choses those coz most of u girl wud have to stand for cause and that is because of love.....But if u really did it ....so u did it for LOVE! Have some nice days...
for love I would forgive but if I know that she would not be happy with me and there fore go to bed with 3 men and thus try to find a way out I would do the same like you and release her of her burden although it would bring me great pain.
U did a right thing, I would have done the same, thats very dignified way, I wish u love me that much, I assure u , u will never ever repent in ur life, I can give the kind of love u couldnt have imagine, the only condition 4 this is that u love me from the coure of ur heart. If u like to try email at shahzadaaleem@hotmail.com. Wish u all the best in life, take care & bye
you don't leave someone you love
if you say u love him keep him
Let go...But it is worth trying to fight for it....Am I making sense? I dunno...But I admire u for having the courage of letting go....
You just did the right thing...
Well, me, I am already married as you know. We were officemate before but we see each other in the office only during break time and before she's off in the office. I didn't know that when she's off, a guy is courting her which later developed into a sort of MU relationship. Until one day, somebody had informed me through text of their relationship. That time, I felt pity to myself being fooled by my wife inspite of the love that I have given to her. She leaves like a princess with me, she doesn't do much on house chores. At the same time, I felt anger to my wife. She asked sorry for that and told begged me not to leave her 'coz "she could not leave without me". I felt that she's sincere on what she said and because I love her so much, I forgave her and now we're okay and doing fine. You're the only person I told you about this, I don't why I'm telling you this.
My last ex & I ended our relationship because we had to. We were brought together by God and we also had to obey Him when He was putting an end to the relationship.
I loved him so much I had to let him go because I knew (& I know)God has His purposes for us, pero magkahiwalay nga lang. I had to let him go becasue we had to grow in the Lord separate from each other. I loved him so much, I chose to let go and give him up to God.
As for you Sis, tama yung ginawa mo to break up with him. You deserved more than to with a guy who's unfaithful.
God bless!
@theren
you relented because you were already in love with someone else.
@bryanne
does God tie hearts together and then change His mind and tell these two people to break up?
@theren and bryanne
guys, i would like to ask the both of you: where in the bible does it ever show expressly or implicitly that disposable, trial-and-error relationships pleases God? is there any instance in the bible wherein God was pleased when His people switch or jump from one partner to another?
@to all
what people are doing for love? they are entering into disposable relationships, trial-and-error relationships, all in the name of love. the bible shows love not to be some emotion or convenient way of being with someone and enjoying how it takes away the loneliness. rather, the bible in 1corinthians13 shows love to be a committed conviction.
perhaps the greatest example is God's love for us. was it convenient for God to court and betrothe Himself to us? let's see what He went through: countless rejection, betrayal, treachery, adultery from us, the scourging, mockery, ridicule, persecution, accusation, 3 nails, a crown of thorns, calvary, the cross... yet He confirmed that we are His bride and did everything to keep us.
my challenge not only to both of you but to everyone here is this: before you enter into relationships, confirm it first with God if He wants you to. bryanne, God does not confirm a relationship only to break you up. why? because disposable relationships does not please Him. instead of claiming that God brought the two of you together, why not look back and reexamine the relationship and see if it was really God who ordained the relationship? hint: did you rely on signs for confirmation or did you rely on scripture? was there a word from God during your quiet times that confirmed it or did you both simply rely on signs and "coincidences"? and theren, jumping from one relationship to another because you "fall in love" is not biblical. "falling" in love is not biblical at all. genuine godly romantic love for another person is not something that you begin to feel for someone. rather, it's a godly desire that God Himself births in your heart, a desire to serve the person to help that person walk in his destiny in God. and as you do, you would also fulfill your own destiny in God. the heart is easily decieved by emotions and situations. guard your heart from these for the heart is fickle (jeremiah 17:9)
@david First of all, God bless. Let me just make it clear, I did not jump from one relationship to another in split seconds or claimed biblical about the stuff I wrote in here. I was speaking of a topic in human nature. I have never questioned God's scriptures nor battle it with anyone else. It was a simple situation I related hoping to get down a discussion. Maybe you did not undersntand my topic altogether.
Just one question, can you tell which relationship is disposable/trial-and-error before it even starts? Because if so, then all relatonships in this world will be perfect, no more broken-heart, right? I may not be very well versed about the bible as you, but I am not unrealistic.
hey there sis!! you've had quite a journey. hope 'n' pray that you are getting stronger in every aspect of your life as each day passes by...keep looking up to Jesus. =)
What would I do for love?
I'm reminded of God's perfect example of love in what He did for us through His Son (John 3:16). That's pretty hard to do.
i almost let go of myself but i got a hold of it before its too late..but love is such a splendid thing,its hard to put into words..God's will...
@mbjserra thanks =) well said!
@deh_091205 well, we all have our share of the wilderness, but we do manage to find our way back.
ur welcome po...a friend sent this to me...maybe something you can use for him..hehehe..diba? *winkz*
"A Woman"
This is written in the Hebrew Talmud, the book
where all of the sayings and preaching of
Rabbis are conserved over time.
It says: "Be very careful if you make a woman
cry, because God counts her tears. The woman
came out of a man's rib. Not from his feet to be
walked on. Not from his head to be superior, but
from the side to be equal. Under the arm to be
protected, and next to the heart to be loved."
@mbjserra
Make a woman cry? duh?! as if naman noh, mas marami yung girls na mahilig mag paiyak ng boys... argghh... hehehe, nde po me alit sa inyo.. i just dont trust girls anymore po.. hayy...
@theren
yes it is pathetic.
So you want him to be "happy" for doing the wrong thing?
and you "called" that love? that is not "love" sister. although you thought it was maybe because you'll "feel" good about it.
on trial and error, there is no such thing in a Relationship. because it includes or should include informed decisions that you have to face up.
In theren's situation, the BF already ended the relationship when he decided to be with other three girls, which he thought he also had relationships with.
Remember our biblical equation/definition of love is:
One woman + One man.
Because if so, then all relatonships in this world will be perfect, no more broken-heart, right? I may not be very well versed about the bible as you, but I am not unrealistic.
-- As ive said or implied, a relationship starts with a THE Decision and making it official in the account of:
1. Deciding to put your feelings to ONE person only.
2. Letting him/her know.
3. Get into life together. Choosing everyday that you love that only ONE person.
-- once one person did not get along with this rule, kahit isa lang. Then the relationship HAS already ended.
Wala namang error akong makita kundi "Decisions" lang. Somebody did not make a mistake of breaking the rule, but they DELIBERATELY disobeyed it or yun nga, made a decision. If something ought to be called love it is by informed decisions. Not by saying, oh i made a mistake etc.
Error, error.
do or do not there is no try
-- Yoda, hehe. Well kahit naman sa Bible let your yes be yes and no be no.
So before anyone want to Love. Know God first, know God's Will first.
@theren the first part of the post may sound mean to you, but think of me like that of a strict older brother just trying to protect his little sister, trying to snatch her from delusions invoked by secular Love Songs or whatever. Thanks.
PS to everyone: Stop listening to Nina's Love Moves in Mysterious Ways. :-P
@apostolos_iakobos
The HAPPINESS that I meant was not THE THREE GIRLS...I meant to say his FREEDOM. My rationale is, he had to have three other girls aside from me, I figured that his being with me alone wasn't where his heart was in that evolved time. What I am saying is, I felt that it wasn't with me that he will be happy because if I was he wouldn't have to seek that elsewhere, ayt? His playing around I have lifted up to HIM to take care of. People make mistakes. It is in these mistakes that we learn and grow from. I believe in LOVE and FORGIVENESS. =)
good for you. that's another topic for discussion:
If you gave someone his freedom to make him "happy", is that because you love him? or because you do not love him anymore?
In a Marriage Scenario, meaning you are married now, is this applicable?
Marriage is the Proof that you really love someone kasi. ;)
and it is where you can say that you really loved the person. Biblically.
@apostolos_iakobos
Why do you think there is such thing as a FAILED MARRIAGE? Why is DIVORCE earning big bucks over the counter overseas? If I was married I would still let go of my partner should he fall out. Marriage is a matter of CHOICE not CHANCE. However, Marriage is not foreseen or predicted. When we tie the knot there is really no certainty for it to last unless the couple will work it out.
Yes I let him go because I loved him and I wanted him to be happy. I did not want to be selfish and live in that one-way relationship. We both deserved to be happy so I did us the favor to cut the long story short. Loving him did not altogether mean he was my only happiness in return. I believe that setting free, letting go, facing reality and moving on is what makes this life worth living. =)
in my opinion,dpat talaga intindihng mabuti and count the big cost in getting marriage,you made a covenant before God and dapat talaga, kilalanin ng mabuti ang bawat isa,nang sa ganun magkaproblema man di na masyadong mahirap kasi,little adjustments nlng. and dapat talaga,in the first place, u get into marriage lahat prepared ka mentally, spiriually, and emotionallyand financially.yun bang urrelationship is built on the solid foundation of faith in GOD.
I'll do everything to my no.1 love Jesus
@kathlyn
I believe you have made a point out of what you have said in your post here. And I also believe that we could manage what you have suggested. Actually, it all depends on us what we choose to live by with our free will. However, it is a fact that there is no such thing as perfect but perfecting. That the one thing constant about the world is CHANGE. How to manage CHANGE is ANOTHER STORY.
@nancy_2688...AGREE! Without question =)
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